Category Archives: Uncategorized

Making Happiness From Scratch

Real happiness, that deep down soul level happiness, can be one of the most elusive things to obtain in this life.  Many of us will spend the bulk of our years searching it out, and usually always in all the wrong places. It’s typically not until we get much older that we begin to gain an understanding of how happiness really works.   That is what this blog post is about. Happiness. What it really is, and how in the world do we really obtain it?

The definition of happiness reads like this, “happiness; the state of being happy.”  Uhh, okay. that’s kind of vague.  The dictionary tells you what happiness is, but not how to get it. That would be too easy.

It’s only in recent years that I have slowly begun to understand that things, nor people, have the ability or the responsibility to make me happy.  I am personally guilty in the past of depending on people for my happiness.

Luckily for me, my sanity, and the sanity of those I was subconsciously putting all of that pressure on, I had an epiphany. I have slowly begun to see, that if I want to be truly happy, and in turn spread that happiness outward to those around me, I am 100% in charge of creating my own happiness and joy.

All too often, we fall into the trap of expectation. Expecting our husbands, children, friends, pastors, etc., to “make us happy” Why do we do that? I believe it is because, and this is just my theory, that being TRULY happy takes a lot of work.

We need to put in the effort it takes. But what effort would that be? What does it look like?

We will touch on that, but first I want to go back to that epiphany I mentioned. One day while going about my business, not thinking about anything in particular, it hit me like a lightning bolt. The understanding that I had never had before about real happiness.

“I have GOT to start creating my OWN happiness!”

So then began the research into the matter.  Turns out, a quick Google search will send you into information overload! There are endless blogs, articles, informative pieces, and even studies done on the topic of happiness, and how to attain it.

But for the sake of time, I will sum it all up…YOU and only you can make YOU happy! Start by having a real honest conversation with yourself. Do you expect your significant other to make you happy? Or your parents, or children? Do you find yourself looking to things or food or even your pets for happiness?

I’m guilty of every one of those things at one point or another, but now I am working hard at shifting my perspective and my expectations, because if we aren’t careful and we continuously put our own self-care on the back burner by always putting ourselves last, while expecting our happiness to be provided to us by someone other than yourself, we’re at a real risk of becoming bitter, angry, and unhappy.  Our families can definitely bring smiles to our hearts, and that’s just a bonus.

So what does creating your own happiness look like? Well, for me it is starting my day with scripture, meditation, prayer, and gratitude. As well as positive mantras, because sometimes we have to tell ourselves something over and over again until we begin to believe it. Smiling in the face of adversity also does wonders for me. Happiness is a state of mind, and once you realize that, the world around you begins to look a little different.

Realizing that you are indeed in charge of your state of mind is a very freeing feeling. As I mentioned at the beginning of this post, it takes effort, hard work, and patience. One doesn’t become “unhappy” overnight, so don’t expect to change all at once. But do have that honest conversation with yourself. Make a list of the things you think would bring you happiness, then mark it all out and write “ME”.

 

A Clear Vision For 2017

His hand is at work in your life right now like never before. 2017 will be a transformative year for you and your family.

I claim this for my family, and you should as well. I have seen tons of Facebook posts and memes over the last couple of weeks about how bad 2016 was, but I really can’t complain.

For the first time in my life, I was actually kind of sad to see the year change on the calendar. As I am aging, I am realizing how quickly this life is passing by. Little moments of clarity like this can sometimes be a bit overwhelming or down right scary.

My babies aren’t babies anymore, and I hardly recognize the older woman with gray hair and crows feet staring at me from the mirror. But still, I can’t complain. I’m alive. My children are alive. My husband is alive. And we are all doing well.

If 2016 was “bad” to you, take this moment to claim 2017 as yours. What is your vision for this new year? Do you have one? Is it clear?

If you do not have a clear vision for 2017, may I suggest prayer? Pray and meditate on it, and see what happens. There is a lot going on in this world today, a lot of very scary things, but God is never too busy to help you.

I hope and pray that each and every one of you has a blessed and prosperous 2017, filled with clear vision, health, and happiness.

DON’T FORGET TO CLAIM IT!!

Love, Crystal

 

Tackling Mt. Laundry; & Other Daily Ordeals

“Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.”     Isaiah 41:10

Yes. I just opened a post about laundry with a Bible verse. Don’t even laugh, you’ve been there as well. Come on now, don’t deny it.

You know the feeling I’m referring to; it’s been an incredibly long week, the days flew by and before you know it, it’s Saturday, you’re SOOO looking forward to  a warm, steamy, relaxing shower while the littles watch t.v., all cuddled up in their blankets and cozy pj’s.

The shower is on and billows of  steam are calling you,  inviting you to step in and allow the heat to melt the stress away..even for just a minute. Undressed and ready to escape into your own little sauna, you reach for a towel and lo…there are none!

You forgot to do the dadgum laundry, and apparently, the littles had a busy week of cleaning up spills with all of your clean fluffy towels!

This is the first of many times today you will have to remind yourself of your spirituality!

Standing in the laundry room, hoping with all hope that you will find a clean towel that has been left in the dryer, you realize that Mt. Laundry is taunting you: “You’ll never conquer me!”

*This is where the first scripture comes into play*  The one I use on average, 5 thousand or so times a day;

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4;13

Huffing and puffing, desperately trying not to “lose it” while continually mumbling the verse under your breath, you begin tossing clothes in the machine.

Okay, so while the clothes wash you will just take this moment to catch up on other tasks that have been neglected. Off to the kitchen you go to refill your not big enough coffee cup  when there it is, a sink full of dirty dishes. Where did they even come from?!? You know you washed them all before you went to bed last night! ( One of lifes great mysteries. Everyone denies dirtying them while you slept.)

Still in your robe, you have washed the dishes, again, wiped down the cabinets, swept the floors, refereed sibling squabbles, fed the hungry masses, and so on. Oh yes, some of us live in a state of perpetual distraction. You look up and it is 3 P.M. What the heck?!

Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, for anger rests in the bosom of fools.”  Ecclesiastes 7:9 

Remain calm momma, remain calm.

You forgot the laundry. Mt. laundry is laughing at you and you still haven’t gotten that steamy shower.  Ugh. After re-washing this mornings load, and finally attaining some clean fuzzy towels, you pass them out to the family and everyone starts their evening routine of bathtimes while you begin dinner.

He who has two tunics, let him give to him who has none; and he who has food, let him do likewise.”   Luke 3:11

We give of ourselves. That’s what we do. It’s the end of another day and finally, you get your shower. As you’re stepping out and attempting to dry off with a cold damp towel that was left lying in the floor by the bathrooms previous occupant, you smile as another scripture comes to mind:

The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.”  Proverbs 14:1

You made it another day and didn’t “lose your religion”  if you know what I’m saying.

Tomorrow Mt. Laundry. We will meet again tomorrow., but right now it’s time for cuddles and bedtime prayers.

 

Gatlinburg, you’re in our prayers..

I can not even begin too understand what emotions you must be experiencing. We have all followed the news closely over the last 48 hours, in horror and disbelief, at what was unfolding. There were many vacationers, from our small town, who were lodging in the cozy cabins of the Smokies, when the emergency evacuations started. 3d640883-cb54-4926-b53c-4610a7da6005

They kept us informed, as too what was happening all around them. How completely terrifying the rushed ride down the mountain was, with smoke and fire on every side. The feeling of not knowing if they would get down, and out of harms way in time. They told us, in real time, how hot it was in their cars, and of how the back of their throats burned from the smoke that was creeping in through every crack of the automobile.

They all made it home safely, each family with their own intense story to tell. I know this is something they will never forget, and the people here in Mississippi who love them are so glad they made it home safely. The firefighters and emergency personnel did an outstanding job.

So now, in the aftermath that I’m seeing on the news and social media, a painful realization hit me, our friends and family made it home, they experienced the terror on the mountain, but today they are waking up in their beds,, in their homes, while so many in those mountains now have no home to go to.

I know the vacationers realize this, and I’m not making light of what they experienced, not in the least.

I worry that, the residents of Gatlinburg might feel as though they are completely alone, all of the tourists disappeared and went back to their lives, sort of feeling, but to the wonderful people of Gatlinburg- you are now, and will continue to be on our prayers, for as long as it takes, until every single home is rebuilt, and every last business reopens their doors.

The Smoky Mountains have been a second home too so many of us, and your hospitality is unmatched! We love you!

“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all, especially to those who are of the household of faith.”        Galatians 6:2, 10 

 

Hello world!

Hello world! So glad you stopped by! header-image The purpose of this particular blog, is not too be just another mom blog, or how too website. The goal here is too deliver all of the content you, the reader enjoys.

We will talk about faith, family, and all things happiness! Yes, there will be recipes, life hacks, encouragement for families, crafts, and much more, but I will do everything I can too remain true to my goal.

So pour yourself a cup of liquid life force, aka coffee, and lets get too know each other! zlwdjoktua8-mike-kenneally