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Bless This Southern Mess

A dear friend made this adorable mason jar door hanger that is currently residing in my kitchen, but the title of this blog is referring to, umm, me.

As I sat at the kitchen table, stressing over all that I failed to accomplish that day, trying to plan for my daughters 9th birthday party that was in just six days (wow, how time flies!), trying to figure out what to make for a homemade gift at our homeschool co-op Moms Christmas party, as well as penciling down each child’s grade level Christmas party dates and times, I took a long ragged breathe and looked up.

There was my friends’ cutesy door hanger. I couldn’t help but wonder in that moment..”was she thinking about my house, or ME when she made this??” Probably me. Yes, I’m sure of it.

Real talk! Aren’t we all a mess?? I mean, aren’t we? I get serious anxiety when I think about the “perfect moms” out there, with their perfect houses, perfect husbands, and perfect kids! I have the joy of rubbing elbows with many of these perfect moms at our homeschool co-op that we have been part of for nearly 5 years now. However, it’s just in the last six months that I have been making a conscious effort to get to know the other mommas a little better. Let me tell you…we are all a mess in our own messy ways. Every. Single. One. Of. Us.

The ladies in my mind, who I have perceived as “perfect”, would probably laugh until they choked if I ever told them how I had envisioned them in the not so long ago past! But like diving too deep, the realization that these phenomenal females were a whole lot like me in many ways, was the best breath of fresh air!

We are all giving it our best, and that IS good enough! My best advice when you’re feeling like a momster who is falling apart, is to approach one of the women you see as “having it all together”, and ask them simply, “Are you feeling as big of a mess as I am?” I feel confident in saying they will surprise you by not being as perfect as you presumed. You will probably laugh together, cry together, and offer each other great advice!

Sometimes we just need to hear each other’s stories. Remind each other that we all struggle, (homeschool mom or not, this goes for all of us!) and laugh with each other as we swap war stories!

Stay blessed ya’ll, and embrace the mess!